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Wednesday, 17 February 2016

What It's Like To Be In A Long Distance Relationship


Being in a long distance relationship is one of those things I didn't think I'd ever experience. When Aaron and I first started talking, I discovered that we'd actually chosen the same university as our first choice - what a coincidence! We finished our A Level exams around about the same time of becoming an official couple, so all that was left to do was enjoy summer and anxiously wait for the results - and hope that we'd both done enough. Two months later, results day arrived, which also happened to be my 18th birthday. What are the bloody chances eh? And yes, you know what's coming next. I got in, but Aaron didn't. It hit me like a ton of bricks that he was going to move away from me, as his second choice uni isn't close to home. I felt so scared as I thought that this might mean things would have to change between us. But, he told me straight away that he loved me too much to not make it work, and I was 110% willing to make it work too. We're just over half the way through our first year of university now, and we're stronger than ever. I thought I'd share with you my experience so far of being in a long distance relationship, as I love reading posts like this and some of you may be able to relate to this sort of thing.

Saying goodbye all the time is something that's very hard to get used to // Of course saying hello is always much easier than saying goodbye, but this especially applies when in a long distance relationship. Aaron and I try to see each other around every two weeks or so, which means every two weeks we have to say goodbye. The goodbye is always hard. Watching him walk away knowing I won't see him for a little while really is a kick in the stomach. It hurts. I never want that last hug to end, but it has to. 

Crying becomes a bit more of a regular thing // I'm quite a sensitive person so being in a long distance relationship does get the water works flowing a bit more often than usual. When Aaron leaves me after a lovely few days together, I will have a good long cry. There's no point in holding it in, right? It sounds so miserable and horrible, but it is the truth. Some days I will feel down and quite lonely and all I want to do is give him a huge cuddle, but of course I can't, which can be so frustrating and upsetting.

You will appreciate your time together so much more // Not seeing Aaron on a daily basis makes me, and him, appreciate our time together a heck of a lot more. We love to do special things together when we see each other, which might be going on a long walk, going to the cinema or even heading out for a lovely evening meal. Even the little things feel so much more special, like watching a film with popcorn whilst having a good snuggle. I really do realise how lucky I am when Aaron comes home or I go to visit him; the feeling of being reunited is simply indescribable. 

You miss absolutely everything about them // Not being able to simply hold Aaron's hand, touch his face or give him a kiss is so hard at times. I even miss the smell of his aftershave - when I first see him after a while there's nothing better than nuzzling into his chest and breathing in the smell of it. It sounds so strange haha but if you can relate you'll understand what I mean. 

Skype becomes your best friend // Aaron and I message all day every day, but there's just something that extra bit more special about seeing his face and hearing his voice. That's why Skype comes in handy. We don't Skype hugely often, but keeping the video calls limited helps them to feel even more special. If we plan to Skype in the evening, I will look forward to it all day and it will instantly make my day feel brighter. I love our Skype video calls, we always have such a laugh and it's the perfect opportunity to have a good catch up. 

You travel a lot more than you used to // I'm not a very confident driver, so the coach is the next best option to go and visit Aaron. Now, the coach is a long four and a half hours, but let me tell you it's so bloody well worth it. I have a coachcard so I can get the coach for a much cheaper price, which is so great and helps me to save a lot more money. I do get quite bad travel anxiety, but I always try to be brave and try to remember the reason I am travelling in the first place. I often listen to audio books to help pass the time and distract myself from getting nervous whilst being on the coach. And let me tell you once I'm there, all of the nerves fade away and I feel happier than ever.

It's all about trust // There's no doubt that I trust Aaron completely. There isn't a reason not to. It's probably one of the best things about our relationship; we have absolutely amazing trust and it's so special to have that between us. Now don't get me wrong being apart from Aaron is so hard, but when he goes out with his uni friends, I feel happy, positive and most importantly I feel like I can trust him. I know Aaron loves me more than anything, and visa versa, so there's no reason not to trust each other when we're far apart.

So, there you go. Long distance relationships are hard at times, but they can work if you and your loved one both put your minds and hearts to it. Don't let anyone tell you that they never work, it's a load of crap. The work has to come from you, and if you're prepared to put it in, then there's no reason why it won't work out. 

Are you in a long distance relationship? Have you been in one previously, or are you going to be in one soon? Do you have any tips or experiences to share? Let me know below! I'd absolutely love to hear your thoughts on this and whether you found this interesting or not.
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  1. This post was so sweet and lovely to read! I couldn't even imagine being in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, so hats off to the both of you for doing just that and making it work. I guess though as you said, it makes you appreciate the little things more and the time you do spend together. I enjoyed reading this so much. Best wishes to the both of you xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Aw Lauren, thank you so much I'm so glad you enjoyed it. And yes definitely! It really is so special, but it is hard at times! Thank you lovely that's so kind, best wishes to you and your boyfriend too xo

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  2. This was a great post! Never been in a long-distance relationship myself but its great to have some tips just incase!

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    1. So glad you enjoyed it and found it useful! :) xo

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  3. Aw this post was lovely to read - I'm not in a long distance relationship, however me and my boyfriend will possibly be off to different uni's next year so this may come in handy to me. I hope you carry on having a happy and strong relationship!

    Lucy | Forever September

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    1. I'm so glad you enjoyed it Lucy! I hope everything goes great for you and your boyfriend too, and good luck with getting into uni when the time comes :) Thank you so much xo

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  4. I loved hearing your story and I can totally relate to the time you spend together is much more valuable!
    Charlotte // www.charlottespicks.com

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    1. Aw I'm so glad you enjoyed it! And yeah it's so true! xo

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  5. I've heard tales from friends about LDRs and their struggles, but the general consensus is one and the same: that the long distance between them and their significant other eventually built their relationship to be something stronger than the norm.

    I was in one before, but it was just for a short period of time. It couldn't have worked out for us because he was an insane 9 hours behind, so we eventually decided to end it. I'm not sure whether I'll have the courage to try an LDR, but I applaud you for investing in one. I'm sure with one you really love, it's worth it.

    Thank you so much for sharing, Hannah. Good luck! x

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    1. Aw that's such a shame, I'm so sorry it didn't work out for you! Thank you so much, that's so kind of you. And you're so welcome, thank you for reading! :) xo

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  6. I think people who are in long distance relationships are so strong, I don't know if I could do it!

    Lauren Ashleigh xx

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    1. Thank you so much for reading Lauren. It certainly is hard at times but definitely very rewarding! xo

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  7. Loved reading this post Hannah, my boyfriend and I are both at separate uni's so are also long distance and I must agree, saying goodbye is the hardest part but it's amazing when you spend such valuable time together again.

    Jasmine | jasminehardingmakeup.com xx

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    1. Aw I'm so glad you enjoyed reading and could relate to this post Jasmine, it means a lot! I know right, being reunited is such an amazing feeling, but saying goodbye does suck doesn't it! So glad someone else can relate to what it feels like, thank you so much for reading lovely :) xo

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  8. This happened to me and my now husband when I left for uni. It makes life really hard but we talked every night and he visited every weekend which made our time together even more special. Make sure you have your fiends for when your down after all it's good to cry now and then.

    Kirsty

    Kirstyralph.co.uk

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    1. Aw that's so lovely to hear it all worked out for you and you're now married! :) It is so hard, it can be very upsetting at times but our time together is always so special as you said as well. One of my best friends at uni is in a long distance relationship too so we can relate to each other a lot which really helps! xo

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  9. I absolutely adored reading this post Hun! I love your outlook on it all! Xxx

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    1. Aw Chelsea I'm so glad you enjoyed reading it, it means a lot. Thank you so much lovely :) xo

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  10. You should be very proud of yourself sweetie, I know personally I would suck at being in a long distance relationship, I'm way too needy for my own good.

    Meme xx

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    1. Aw that's so kind of you to say, it is hard at times, and was especially hard at the beginning but we're doing so well and are going strong :) I really appreciate your comment! xo

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  11. I'm in a long distance relationship too. my boyfriend studies in the uk and we have 6700 miles between us. what's harder is i only see him during summer break so we spend around 10-12 months apart. thankfully, 2016-2017 will be our last year apart as he will be finishing next year. i cant wait to have him around again!

    Erin | http://www.erinazmir.com

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